Roles of Fathers and Partners during Pregnancy

As a father or partner, there is a lot you can do during her pregnancy:

• Ask her how you can help. 
• Go to the medical appointments and prenatal classes. 
• Learn about pregnancy and birth. 
• Talk about how you would like to parent your child. 
• Talk about breastfeeding. Breast milk is the healthiest food for your new baby. 
• You can often help her decision to quit smoking, encourage her quit attempts, and help to stay smoke-free. Your family will be healthier if you also quit or smoke less. Your local health unit can help you with this. 
• Talk about not drinking alcohol. The safest choice is to have alcohol-free drinks instead. If you also stop drinking, it may help your partner not to drink alcohol during the pregnancy and when she is breastfeeding. 
• Encourage her to be active. Decide together what you can do. 
• Go for a walk and exercise with her every day. 
• Understand that she may feel moody at times. 
• Help her rest when she is tired. 
• Share household chores (e.g. meal preparation, cleaning, etc.) 
• Carry things that are too heavy for her. 
• Understand that her interest in sex may change. Talk to her about how you feel. 
• Together explore ways to feel close. 
• Learn how to take care of your new baby. 
• Help prepare the stuff your baby will need at the hospital and once home. Get your home ready for the baby. 
• Find out about groups for new parents or fathers in your community. 
• Talk with others about what it is like for you to be expecting your baby.

During pregnancy is a good time to start bonding with your baby. Getting involved early with the pregnancy helps you to get ready to be a parent. 
You can:

• Ask your partner to tell you when the baby is moving. Place your hand on her belly so you can feel your baby’s movements. 
• Listen to your baby’s heartbeat. 
• Talk to your unborn child through mom’s belly. You can read stories, sing songs, or just talk to your baby.